A girl comes up to you in a party and tells you

Why does there always have to be an ulterior motive to just buying a lady a drink? Granted bars do have a rep. for being pick-up spots but maybe just by some chance a guy or a lady could actually just want pleasant conversation without there being an ulterior motive involved. What do you think?

 

On that I agree to a point. Granted there are some female bar flies out there however, if I see a lady of interest at a bar and I'm having a drink for me it is only common courtesy to make that offer. I guess I'm a bit old fashion in that I still believe in being a "gentleman" which seems to be a thing of the past in this day in age.

 

Why do I have to buy a girl a drink just to talk to her? Why don't girls ever buy guys a drink?

 

Because that's not how it goes here in America. Guys have to buy girls drinks, pay for 1st dates, etc.

 

Says who? Guys don't have to do any of those things.

I bet you think you also need to buy a $3,000+ ring when you propose as well. I've been with my wife for over 10 years and she picked out her ring; it was $169 and she loved it. And our tungsten wedding bands were $20 for both of them. Why throw money out the window on a ring when you could use that money to pay for a honeymoon or the wedding itself. Where I come from money doesn't grow on trees.

 

Have you ever heard of "CHIVILARY"? Secondly, Ladies do buy guys drinks all the time. Many times ladies have offered and did buy me my first drink in a bar or club. In fact there have been times I have been asked out by a lady for a few drinks and although I told her my pocket was a little light at that moment her reply was "Don't worry I'll take care of the tab" eventhough I protested. This is the tewenty-first century and both sexes DO HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS!

 

If the girl is damn hot then I wouldn't hesitate in buying a drink for her. I think most of the men do the same in such a situation.

 

Of course I've heard of chivalry I hold doors, pull out chairs, ladies first, etc for women. None of those things make me go broke though. If I had a money tree growing in the backyard (that I also don't have) I probably wouldn't have a problem with it.

 

Well now jumping from buying a girl a drink and taking her on a date and paying for it. Is far, FAR away from buying her a super expensive wedding ring or band. I mean I would never spend a ghastly-large sum of money on a wedding ring. Especially considering the wedding itself is more important than anything. And it in itself is expensive. Don't get me wrong, I'd "spend" on a ring, but not spend like "diddy" or something.

 

So buying a lady one drink would make a difference in your finances? If that is the case why do you go to bars? Is it not less expensive to drink at home where you don't have ladies asking you for drinks and the drinks are less expensive from a convience store than at a bar and you don't have to feel as though you have to buy a lady a drink?

 

I understand how you feel however one drink probably won't send you into bankrupcy I should think. It sometimes can lead to bigger and better things. You never can tell, a simple little thing like buying her a drink could open business opportunities. It has happened to me and helped me achieve high sales honors from a well known international office products company. The simple act of buying a lady a drink made me bonus money. You see she got me in front of the decision maker of the company and put in a good word for me.

 

I have never dated so I guess I would be gullible and say Sure! It all depends whether she's cute or not though.

 

Never dated?? Do you live in an area full of ugly women? Or in some far off corner of the world where there aren't any women? Or are you in the priesthood? A monk perhaps?

 

Surley you are not serious when you say you have "never dated". What's up with that?

 

Don't be surprised guys, there are various reasons why some people don't date, they're either shy or super picky, or some other reason. And I really think that it's quite thick if a stranger asks you to buy something for them, treating someone should be done out of one's one volition.

 

Don't be surprised guys, there are various reasons why some people don't date, they're either shy or super picky, or some other reason. And I really think that it's quite thick if a stranger asks you to buy something for them, treating someone should be done out of one's one volition.

 

Yeah I know people or not everyone dates, but NEVER DATED? That's a bit odd. I don't date as much as most New Yorkers do, but I have dated before and have dated recently.

 

reply: Most women in the bars don't care if your married. I know some women who date only married men. They say because they are stable and have a job. They would tell me that most single men still live at home with no responsibilities and don't work. If a girl hit me up for a drink at a bar that I don't know her ,but I want to get to know her I don't have a problem buying her a drink and having her sit with me.

 

OK, Mr. Big Spender! You and I have gone bar hoping more than one time and while I may buy a girl a drink, you want to buy her a whole bottle! And don't forget her friend who looks lonely!

 

I would say I'd be glad to buy you a drink. If it's her way of talking to me, then I'll play along. I do like it when a girl is straightforward, which is something I don't really see a lot.